Adolescence is often a difficult time with changes taking place in their bodies and brains, many teens often feel overwhelmed, frustrated, misunderstood or cornered. Some begin to test the limits of the world around them through defiant behaviors, impulsive actions or unhealthy activities. If your teen shows any signs of moving down a dangerous path, you should consider intervening quickly to prevent further problems. Some approaches might effectively help your teen better navigate through any difficult times.
Monitor behavior with clear expectations and limits
For noticeable changes, like increased defiance or engaging in questionable activities, monitoring your teen’s behavior and limiting outside activities can sometimes reduce opportunities for trouble. Parents should be clear about expectations, explaining that their love and concern will result in restricted activities and privileges. Teens should only be allowed to socialize when parents feel satisfied knowing:
- where teens are at all times
- with whom they are socializing
- that appropriate supervision is available
Consistently follow through with consequences
Seeking increased freedom, some teens might resist any limitations, and it can be difficult to live with a troubled teen, especially an angry teen. However, parents with troubled teens should reinforce the rules and state the consequences for breaking them. It is most effective to follow through consistently and immediately with appropriate consequences:
- Less serious behaviors (not doing expected chores or homework) might result in losing phone, television or Internet privileges.
- Moderately serious behaviors (missing curfew) might result in being grounded the next time they want to go out with friends.
- Serious behaviors (drinking, a violent outburst and shoplifting) could result in counseling or another other type of outside intervention.
- For continual alarming behaviors, parents could consider outside help, such as an outpatient or residential treatment program.
Seek outside help if needed
Changing one’s parenting approach might not always prove effective. When faced with a teen who runs away, becomes involved in dangerous activities or behaves in an unsettlingly manner, outside intervention should be considered. Seeking outside assistance does not mean that someone is a bad parent or that a teen is a bad person, and parents of troubled teens should know they are not alone. Many available programs, such as counseling, therapeutic or residential programs, have successfully helped teens better manage their lives. By intervening early and finding any needed help, you can guide your teen along the path to a safer and healthier life.
